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Most important lesson: START MINISTERING TO HER and STOP MANIPULATING HER to get her back

 

Brother, you and I need to be a cohesive leadership team. We are going to LEAD your wife back to you.

 

How? By GIVING HER WHAT SHE WANTS.

 

What does DOES want is to feel better about herself (more loved, more lovable, more of a good person, move valuable and worthy, more accepted.)

 

She does not want somebody who puts his needs above hers (wanting, needing, having, to win her back).

 

You want what you want? Give her what she wants and TRUST GOD that doing so will be enough.

 

It is GOD’S WILL after all that you STAY MARRIED.

 

Example:

 

My Mission: To reverse the tragedy of my wife’s broken heart, so she can feel truly loved, seen, and safe — experience deep intimacy — and grow closer to God and her husband, live a life of love and happiness, and accomplish God’s purpose for her on this Earth.

 

I will aggressively take my God-Given male aggression and use it to launch into a battle with Satan for control of my ego to gain the ability to accomplish my mission.

My ego is, has been, and will be the only thing that is currently, has been, and could potentially lead me to fail on my mission.

 

I will accomplish this mission by allowing God to piece my ego and reach my soul, so that HIS love will flow to me unimpeded and flow out of me to my wife.

 

When I get this right, I fulfill my duty, my responsibility, and my solemn obligation — before God, who has entrusted me with his daughter and her soul, and to myself, and to my wife, and to my children.

 

When I get this wrong, I lead myself, my wife, and my children into pain — and throw the door wide open for Satan to tempt them in to sin and all of its consequences on this Earth and after.

 

By accomplishing this mission, my wife can heal, and no matter what happens in my marriage the spiritual and emotional wake I will answer to God for will be one that leads her closer to him — regardless.

 

I understand and believe that only by accomplishing my mission, that is my BEST and ONLY chance to spend the rest of my life with her.

 

 

I will not fail.